When people come to me with a problem, I get REALLY excited, when it’s about someone getting caught, lying. I already have the solution path, at the time, of presented problem. It is a matter of “Will they do it again?” and “Can you forgive someone who lies?” More importantly - someone who lies and isn’t caught in the moment? Has lied before…The liar always knows, when they are lying. Oh the power…..
Why I don’t mind is, sometimes I don’t mind lies. I think they can be fun to call out and I see the time and place and also, sometimes, after the shock of our own behavior, we just need a minute. I understand that other people, do not accept as radically as I do, that someone lied and now what….People, lie. Really, a lie is an exaggeration of something else….whether it’s an exaggeration of unhappiness or feeling out of control, lies are told for a reason. Usually because ? The liar, knows you won’t like the truth.
SO when for instance, a babe tells me that her guy has lied to her, about who he was with last night - we can immediately conclude that either A) My babe’s guy is with someone she doesn’t want him with or B) My babes guy is with someone he doesn’t want her to know about. Either way, I see why the lie is being told. Either way? That means someone isn’t happy at 100%, in the relationship. That’s a whole different idea.
HOWEVER HERE IS THE THING : IFFFFF you call someone a liar and you acknowledge they lied to you - the concept doesn’t go away, they continue to be a liar, until acknowledged they would like to stop lying. That is just how it goes. ORRRRR be an adult and don’t call someone a liar unless you are positive that you truly believe they will never change and they for certain should be labeled, a liar.
Some of us, hear words like that, and apply the concept. Another fun concept to apply? Liars spend their time around people who continue to let them lie. That’s how they stay liars….Find people that tell the truth, no matter your feelings, because if they are any good? They wouldn’t hurt your feelings, and then tell you just to make sure, it worked.